Has anyone ever asked you: “Is he/she a good baby?” 🥴 I don’t know about you, but I never know how to respond to that. Like what the hell is a “good baby” brenda?? And more importantly, what in your mind are you classifying as a bad baby?? I hate when people ask this because it almost demonizes NORMAL behaviors. A baby that cries a lot isn’t a “bad baby.” A baby that wakes up in the middle of the night isn’t a bad baby. A baby that struggles to latch isn’t a bad baby! And it’s not that moms don’t want you to ask about them or the baby, but using phrases like “good baby” is both confusing and conflicting. Babies cry. A lot. That’s literally their ONLY way of communicating their needs. Babies eat. A lot. Their brains and bodies are growing sooo much they need to eat to keep up with it. Babies wake up. A lot. They have no way of regulating themselves, and are still learning how to fall asleep on their own. Instead of asking “are they a good baby?” try one of these instead: “How is sleep going? You doing okay mom?” “How’s feeding going? I know you’re doing your best! “How is baby doing today?” It takes away the label, and opens the door to helpful conversation that shows new parents you see them, and that you care.💗