I learned about weaponized incompetence yesterday. I’m disgusted— but not surprised. There are women out there doing everything: remembering, organising, finishing what he half-started. And they’re told it’s “nagging” when they stop. But the truth is: He’s not learning because he doesn’t have to. And you’re exhausted because you keep stepping in instead of stepping back. You’re not being difficult when you stop carrying what he won’t. You’re not being cold. You’re protecting the relationship from collapse. This isn’t about doing less. It’s about doing what’s yours— and letting him learn what happens when you finally stop doing his. For the full series, comment HUBBY.